Lately, there’s been an influx of self-care pages on Instagram and Twitter. They have been giving tips on things from skin care to every day things like school. Now that’s all good and well, but what really gets to me is that there’s always a new post about how to glow up in X amount of days and it’s usually in the span of a month or less.
If you don’t know what glowing up means, the simplest way to put it is the process from going from ugly duckling to Instagram baddie (or whatever look people are trying to achieve). Just to clarify, I don’t have a problem with glowing up itself. I have a problem with how it’s presented.
This is a picture of me when I was around the age of 17. I was in my final year of high school and all I could think about was prom and college. Up until then, I was known as the weird one (or “unique” as they would call me). I had no problem with being the odd one out, I loved it in fact. But people didn’t just see me as weird anymore, they started seeing me as a girl with style who was willing to take risks.
It wasn’t just happening to me, a lot of my classmates were going through the change of coming into their own and being a little less awkward. This wasn’t something that happened over night, we slowly got there on our own in several months (and some of us years).
Seeing all these challenges that say you can glow up in a month kind of makes me sad. It really reminds me what’s the problem with social media and the internet; teens are in a rush to grow up, which is unrealistic.
Even though I’m 21 years old and I feel a lot more confident about how I look, I know that I still have a lot of growing up to do. You don’t have to rush into what you think you should look like. Instead, take things a day at a time. Try different styles until you find one that suits you, play with make-up and do things that are outside of your comfort zone.